What is conflict in adolescence?
One of the most fundamental sources of adolescent conflict is the struggle for power. This power is not about who is the boss in the family. However, obviously, either the father or the mother has the most to say, not the child himself.
This right is the right of children to control their own development. To put it bluntly, when children become teenagers, they are old enough to want to make their own decisions.
Some parental control or protection is too strong and puts so much pressure on the child. Parents want everything to be more far-reaching than the child, and they want to arrange everything for them. This is like a sapling pressuring a stone. As the saplings grow, the confrontation will intensify, and sooner or later, it will break out.
There are many ways to talk about the pattern of this outbreak.
Children who are hardy and chivalrous like direct resistance. Some children feel that their parents do not listen to them, so they tend to have silent resistance, neglect their homework, or not talk.
As for laissez-faire nature falling in love, try to indulge yourself in the children’s network.
Second, don’t get angry. Anger and even violence are used to solve problems or, at best, to cover them up. When people are angry, they like to use brute force. This conflict problem involves using brute force to solve the problem, but brute force will only be worse or make things even worse.
After you don’t panic or get angry, you can do the third thing: be open. Although it is good for us to make decisions for our children, that was in the past, when the children were young, not adults. When they have grown up a lot, it is normal for them to want to make some decisions for themselves.
Then come number four: communicate. In fact, there is no such thing as ineffective communication. The so-called “no effect” may just be the child not acting according to what their parents desire. Let’s not expect miracles. Firmly believe that as long as there is communication, there will be an effect.
It’s human nature to communicate and have an impact. What we need to do is to communicate with our children on an equal basis and make use of such human nature to influence our children. At the same time, we will be influenced and gradually change the way we get along with our children and the ratio of power. The relationship between parents and children will be more intimate, harmonious and stable.
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2020-05-12family psychological
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